A couple of months ago, a good friend of mine asked me to be one of his groomsmen. This was my first ever duty as a groomsman and I considered it an honour to have been chosen. He got married two weeks ago and the experience was unique. It got me thinking about the role of a groomsman.
According to Wikipedia, groomsmen are essentially male attendants to the groom. It adds that “The most visible duty of the groomsmen is helping guests find their places before the ceremony and to stand near the groom during the wedding ceremony.” I believe it goes beyond that.
‘Groomsmenship’ is a bonding of brothers that act as physical and spiritual support to the groom. Marriage is not just a physical union but a spiritual union between two people with God at the center. Therefore, it’s more than just dressing up and looking good on the day. It’s more than ensuring things run smoothly on the wedding day. It’s prayer, it’s fasting, and it’s the giving of strength and encouragement.
“He who has the bride is the bridegroom; but the friend of the bridegroom, who stands and hears him rejoices greatly because of the bridegroom’s voice So this joy of mine has been made full.” – John 3:29
It’s being specially selected to witness a covenant before God and so the role of groomsmen and bridesmaids are spiritually significant. It places you in a position to hold them liable to their vows. It doesn’t end after the wedding ceremony either. I believe there should be a continual support to the newlyweds through prayer to ensure the marriage remains one that glorify’s God.
I wish Emmanuel and Dinah the best has life to offer in their marriage. I pray Jesus remains front and center of their beautiful union and all other blessings shall follow.